A demonstrator wears a shirt reading 'Boycott Israel' [File].                          (photo credit:AFP/ MOHD RASFAN) 
                                          Why can’t Israel’s self-styled friends  understand that the things they say about  Israel are not in fact the  sentiments of friends but of enemies? Whenever  someone says “As a  friend/candid friend/staunch ally of Israel...,” you know  that what’s  coming is a vicious kick to the head. Delivered, of course, purely  in a  spirit of friendship.
The Canadian foreign minister Stéphane  Dion,  describing himself as a “steadfast ally and friend to Israel,”  criticized both  the Palestinians’ unilateral pursuit of statehood and  the Israelis’ settlement  construction. “Canada is concerned by the  continued violence in Israel and the  West Bank,” he said.
“Canada  calls for all efforts to be made to reduce  violence and incitement and  to help build the conditions for a return to the  negotiating table.”
Dion  seemed to be suggesting that Israeli terrorism  victims were somehow  asking for it and that Palestinian murder attacks were to  be equated  with Israeli self-defense.
Doubtless he thought he was being   studiously even-handed and therefore fair, wise and just. But in the  battle  between victim and aggressor, legality and illegality, truth and  falsehood,  even-handedness inescapably entails blaming the victim and  tacitly endorsing  illegality and lies.
A few days later the UN  Secretary-General Ban  Ki-moon did something similar. While condemning  the current wave of Palestinian  stabbings and other attacks upon  Israelis, he claimed the perpetrators were  driven by “alienation and  despair.”
“It is human nature to react to  occupation, which often serves as a potent incubator of hate and extremism,” he  said.
When  Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu expressed outrage at such an   apparent justification for Palestinian violence, Ban appeared genuinely   affronted. His words, he said, had been twisted. Palestinian attacks  and  incitement were reprehensible and he condemned them.
Yet  having stated,  “Nothing excuses terrorism,” he then repeated the excuse  for Palestinian  terrorism. “No one can deny that the everyday reality  of occupation provokes  anger and despair, which are major drivers of  violence and extremism and  undermine any hope of a negotiated two-state  solution.”
Well actually, no  one who pays the slightest regard  to reality could maintain such a thing.  Whatever the provocation, it is  not “human nature” to set out to murder as many  innocents as possible,  including women and children.
Ban’s apparently  real  bewilderment that anyone could possibly think he supports terrorism  arises  from two things. The first is his fundamentally false view of  the Arab war  against Israel. The “occupation” does not cause  Palestinian violence. It is  unending Palestinian violence that prolongs  the “occupation.”
The  Palestinians aren’t driven by despair at  the absence of their state. How can  this be so, when they have turned  down repeated offers of such a state since the  1930s? Isn’t it more  logical to assume that the relentless incitement – to which  Ban himself  alluded – which tells them falsely that Israel plans to destroy   al-Aksa and that their highest calling is to kill Jews and conquer the  whole of  Israel has rather more to do with it? Moreover, this is not an  occupation in the  normally accepted understanding of the word. Israel  has not occupied another  people’s land, because the disputed  territories never belonged to another  people.
Nor is Israel  there out of an aggressive colonial impulse. The  Jews are entitled to  hold and settle the territories under international law  several times  over, both as a legally permitted defense against continuous   belligerence and from their never-abrogated entitlement to do so – as  the only  people for whom this was ever their national homeland – under  the terms of the  Palestine Mandate.
These false premises about Israel’s “occupation,”  however, are widespread.
This  helps explain the distressing fact that  most of the almost daily  Palestinian terrorist attacks on Israelis aren’t noted  at all in the  Western media.
Few realize that Israelis going about their   everyday lives are routinely being murdered or wounded by stabbing,  shooting,  rock-throwing or cars driven into bus queues.
This  onslaught is not being  reported because, to the Western media, it is  the understandable response to  occupation. The settlers have chosen to  put themselves in harm’s way, goes the  thinking, and other Israelis  have also brought this upon themselves merely by  being Israelis.
So  to the West, these Jewish victims of terrorism just  don’t exist. At  the same time, the Western media never reports the near-daily   Palestinian incitement of the mass murder of Israeli Jews. That doesn’t  fit the  narrative of Palestinian victims of Israel.
For  identical reasons, the  media also ignores the victimization of  Palestinians by other Palestinians.  According to Palestinian Media  Watch, last year the Palestinian Independent  Commission for Human  Rights received 292 complaints of torture, maltreatment and  physical  assault in the West Bank and 928 in the Gaza Strip.
The West   remains almost totally ignorant of the tyrannical abuse Palestinians  inflict  upon one another. But why is its Palestinian narrative thus  hermetically sealed  against the truth? Here’s the second reason for  Ban’s bewilderment. Progressives  subscribe to universalizing agendas.  These by definition deny any hierarchy of  cultures or moral values. So  Palestinian society cannot be held to be innately  hostile to human  rights, and Palestinian terrorism is equated (at best) with  Israeli  defense against such attacks.
Thus on Holocaust Remembrance Day,   of all things, Ban equated anti-Semitism with anti-Muslim bigotry. But  the two  are not remotely comparable.
Of course there are some who are  irrationally bigoted against Muslims.
But  most anti-Islamic feeling is a  rational response to Islamic violence  and aggression. By contrast, anti-Jewish  hatred is true bigotry as it  is based entirely on lies, myths, and paranoid and  deranged beliefs  about Jews who have never posed an aggressive threat to  anyone.
Ban  and others committed to universalism think this equation is  fair. In  fact, it diminishes Jew-hatred and sanitizes Islamic aggression. Which   is why progressives who think they are pure because their hearts so   conspicuously bleed for the oppressed are not pure at all. They are  morally  corrupt.
They aren’t driven by compassion for any kind  of victim. What  drives them instead is hatred of supposed victimizers  in the “powerful”  West.
Their purported even-handedness thus camouflages a moral  degeneracy.
For  while denouncing Israel, they support Palestinians who  throw gays from  the top of tall buildings, who abuse women and children, who  jail,  torture and kill dissidents. They support the racist ethnic cleansing of   Jews from a future state of Palestine. They help incite false  grievances that  kill.
They have the blood of innocents on their own hands.
But   they think of themselves as fair, decent, progressive. This is where  they are  vulnerable. For like Ban, they also tend to be remarkably   thinskinned.
That’s because their image of themselves really is  all that  matters to them. They don’t care about the world’s victims.  They care about  being seen to care.
They think of themselves as  nice people. We have to  show them that they are not. Self-regard is  everything to them. It is therefore  their Achilles’ heel.
We should puncture it.
Melanie Phillips is a  columnist for The Times (UK).